Finally, next! You are a Badass review part 6

Finally, we are getting my final review of You are a Badass by Jen Sincero.

This time, I would like to share you about the almighty decision that occasionally hit you in the middle of the road, and it’s your responsibility to take it precisely.

Making decision is crucial, the first thing you do to change your life is decide to go for it. In order to know what is your true decision, you should know that deep in your heart you want that thing so bad. 

That way, you don’t waste your time for some sort of negotiating that make you doubt of your decision.

Once you decide it, stick to it like it holds your life. No matter how hard or rough the process, just bear it. Because you are in the midst of achieving your goals.

Successful people are willing to get out of their comfort zone, to be uncomfortable is the new challenge to keep moving forward to their goals. If you want the new life, you should be ready with adapting and adjusting. By adapting and adjusting means that you should be able to doing something you never do before. Make yourself new habit that leads you to a new successful life.

Do not listen to others people telling you are not good enough to reach what your goals. Because once you set your goals, and it does spark joy to you, then you know that goals are yours. So you just have to walk to every little path to reach that goal.

In Islam, if you’ve done everything you should do, you just have to tawakkul to Allah. Tawakkul means that you have faith in God that He will give you the right result in answer all your effort. And, Jen Sincero explained in one chapter on how you should remember to surrender that gave same vibe as Tawakkul.

Surrender is about allowing yourself to be helped. For some reason, your only effort isn’t enough to cover it all, so you need the other power to help you to achieve your goals. However, you have to let that power to help you. By letting it, you have to have faith and believe that the help will approach you.

Surrendering is the part where you hand the job over to The Universe.

Once you believe that everything you wanted to be already exist, you automatically surrender. Surrender is the powerful form of faith because you send off your effort to be destined by another hand, not yours.  If between your effort and surrender is intertwining each other, you already know that you will achieve the goals.

And you know that you are capable to love yourself because you are a badass.

Fear stops life. You are a Badass review part 5

We knew all the dos to self-development, but we never knew the exact don’ts. So here are the don’ts we should avoid and that marked my 5^th review of You are a Badass by Jen Sincero.

In life with so much going on in our life, we became overwhelmed.

Life is an illusion created by your perception.

 

Life is all about how we see things, so it’s changeable depending on the moment that we decide to put the perspective on. Thus, it can be said that in fact, all the possibility is there hanging around us, but our focus is directed to something else, that we don’t see the opportunity come. However, sometimes we became overwhelmed and didn’t notice in every little detail our life has given.

Be aware of your surrounding, what you gain in your journey.

Being overwhelmed has something to do with procrastination.

Procrastination is one of the most popular forms of self-sabotage because it’s really easy.

Procrastination is as easy as you choose to finish all the Korean drama episode instead on finish your bundle of a project, write a journal to be exact. It may seem relaxing to be cuddling with your blanket not knowing your task start to piling-up. However, at the end of the day, it contributes more than half the percentage of anxious to your life. You get depressed, and instead to start doing all your job, you would crying your inability to stay productive.

So, set your mind, and start to do the things you should be doing. Procrastination may be the huge reason why you are still in your room being caught up with unnecessary stress, whereas you can be in another side of the world enjoying the most expensive ice cream in the world.

To overcome procrastination, you can simply look at each task separately, and start doing it each by each. Because our brains can easily get overwhelmed when we try to do it all in one time.

Next don’ts is our afraid habit.

I probably talk about fear all the time, because in fact, fear is all the reason why we stuck in the same place.

On the other side of your fear is your freedom.

Fear is what distance us from our freedom. As a woman, we may get relieved to give a love letter and a bouquet of flowers to our crush, but our fears on what others would think about us, women is what stops us. Fear is about perspective, if you see that women confess first is an okay thing, you can go ahead and go fearlessly.

Face your fears with the truth, that they are all in your mind, and they will lose their power over you.

Fear is also all about open your mind. Open minded people gave you the best surrounding and give the most impact to yourself. Your surrounding is like your mirror, that defines who you are.

Your life is happening right now, so don’t miss all the time you have. Start right now, and take all the opportunity that approach you.

You are Doing Amazing Sweetie! You are a Badass review part 4

Now that we already knew how to love ourselves, I would like to invite you to the more in-depth explanation on how to exercise your body and mind to help you develop your inner badass. Thus, we are entering the 4^th part of my book review to You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero.

In order to gather your inner badass, you should try meditating. Meditation keeps you focus on several things that are necessary to help you develop. It’s as easy as close your eyes, and feel your breath. Practice to it anytime possible so you can master it precisely. It doesn’t have to be perfect meditation, but it should give you the peace and focus that you desire.

Meditation is when you talk and make some arrangement with your thoughts. Your thoughts have the most in charges beside your intuition, so you might as well be friended with your thoughts.

Your thoughts are intertwining with your reality. So if you want to change your reality, you should be in control with your thoughts. Change your way to think, open your mind widely. Surround yourself with people who think the way you want to think.

Live like you only live once, they said.

But it’s true, tho.

We have limited time to live in this surprising world, so you might as well make the most out of it. Do everything what you wanted to do fearlessly as if it’s your last time on earth. Because sometimes, thoughts that we incapable of doing it are the one that stops us. Take off all the pressure and fear that getting in your way. Act as if you are an eternal beginner. Beginner thoughts will never get satisfied with everything. And once you feel you are an Expert, all the excitement to know-all are gone.

Next thing to master is gratitude.

When you are grateful, fear disappears and abundance appears.

Having gratitude is accept all your yin and yang of yourself. It’s the manner of accept and make the most out of it. When you grateful for yourself, you start to allow yourself to grow. You can feel your body feel great when you give and receive. You aren’t afraid of the possible income, instead, you face all your self-doubt and believe that everything is gonna be okay.

Grateful also meant to say thanks to your past because it dang-well gave you a lot of lessons. And this all forgive things is all about you, not the other way around. Forgive is meant to let yourself breath for all the pain that has been holding you to grow. It’s about owning your own happiness, and desire to feel good, instead of the anger and resentment get in control of you.

Forget about it. Just forget and forgive, after all, you probably forget about it eventually, so just let it go.

And most importantly, relax.

Just Netflix and chill, the said.

You have gone through all the way here so you might give yourself time to breath. Just enjoy every little piece of your journey. No need to rush, just be sure that you eventually be there. 

The inner who embrace the outter. You are a badass review part 3

Off we go to the third part of my You Are a Badass review!

After all the how to raise your willing to love yourself more, now we are arriving in the part where you learn how to love yourself.

The first step to love yourself is simply embrace your inner badass.

First of all, you need to understand why all the self-development stuff begin with simply love yourself. Because, yes, love yourself is like the key to your life, if you love yourself everything would work eventually.

But, really how in the world we can start to love ourselves?

Living in this cruel world, you grow up infused by other people telling you are not good enough. You are not good enough to be happy, to study algebra, to cook the freaking indomie, or even to be loved. In fact, screw that, it's not about others, it's about you in the first place. Start to make yourself as your first priority. Listen into your guts than others' B.S.

You don't need no lover to tell you if you are the most wonderful human being, you can do that by yourself. Send yourself a love-letter, give yourself a movie night ticket, buy yourself a Large Chatime Matcha Tea Latte with a lot of Pearls. Think of it as if it's a spell. Therefore, you constantly be reminded that you are the most stunning people alive. 

Most importantly, stop compare yourself with others. The reason why we stuck in the zone and stressing on what others think of us is that we constantly compare ourselves to others. Your friend might be getting married next week, or on their way to the South Korea, or even in their 3^rd purchase on some high-priced moisturizer, but why in the world we should anxious about? We all have that so-called timing in our lives, maybe now it’s not your time, but it will surely arrive in the end of the day. So just focus on yourself.

"DO NOT WASTE YOUR PRECIOUS TIME GIVING ONE SINGLE CRAP ABOUT WHAT ANYBODY ELSE THINKS OF YOU"

If you have a dream, hold on to it tightly, because it’s the way to identify who you truly are. Dream is like yourself motivation. Pay attention and practice it anytime possible. Screw it if you don’t have one! Find it, find a mentor, hero, role model or even ask for others’ help. Because sometimes other people can see what we wanted to be, but try to be more sharp to it because in the end it is your own life.

But what if you still can't find your dream? BE ALLIEN! Yes, you heard that allien. Behave as if you are the new citizen of this world. Start to see everything in the new perspective. Figure everything out as if you are the newly baby born. Look around and see more specifically to the things that turn you on. By that, you would realize how fortunate your life is, you start see a lot of opportunity hidden.

Sometimes, the way you have choose is different than the rest. But, that doesn't mean you should stop on what you are doing, and change that all over again. 

"It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not."

Start to know yourself better. Be your own friend, supportive fans or even your own guardian. Accept all your perfections and imperfections. Know that you are better than others in so many extraordinary way.  Embrace your inner badass, so your appearance start to reveal who you are. When you enjoy and feel yourself, you know that you are in midst to love yourself journey.

once upon a time when I travel the world

One day, I travel the world.

And by travel the world, I meant visiting another blog.

Actually, it isn't really a big deal since I did it so many times. However, what make it different is that I "travel" it very religiously. I found so many information through my travel. Maybe I should travel more, and leave my footprints.

This time, I would like to share my travel experience that mostly about a book review.

The first "world" I've visit is Texmanita's blog. She wrote a book review tittled "The One Skills". If I should summarize, she wrote about how to find a peace in our life. She wrote that the first five skills that we should have in order to have a peace in our life is to letting go, stop procrastination, face our fears, be kind with "difficult people" and getting rid of distraction. That way, we can easily find peace.

Her blog is so pleasant to see, I guess she likes purple so much. You should check her blog out if you want to gain peace in your life. Just follow this link.

And the next "world" is Siti Maemunah's blog. This time, she wrote a book review tittled "The Magic of Thinking Big." She wrote about how to open our mind wider that we see a good in everything. One quote that I strongly like is:

“successful people never give excuses,”

I know one girl that says yes to every life's opportunity has given her, knowing that she didn't have a clue for what she should doing in the first place. However, that's what make her success. Once opportunity hit her, she never turn it down nor give any excuses. And, to be say yes to everything we should have an open mind. According to Maemunahsiti12's blog there are several ways to open our mind, the first four ways is we should believe in ourselves, don't be afraid to take any chances, have a big confidence in ourselves, and last but not least to think big.

For those of you who want to have your mind open even wider, just click this link and follow the step by step to reach that.

The third "world" I've visit is, Yevi Elok's blog. As I read the tittle of her review which "Forrest Gump" my mind went through the memory when I first watch the movie version of it. I can say that Forrest Gump has became me and my friend's favorite movie. We watched it together, we laughed together, then we cried together. One quote that represent this book is:

"I was born an idiot, but ‘I’m cleverer than most people think."

Forrest Gump might be different with any other people. However, something aboutou Forrest Gump that makes him special in so many ways. For what I can get from Forrest Gump is the ability of him to see good in everything. He's such a positive person. He leave so many good memories for anyone who happen to know him. 

Everyone should know his story in order to not underestimate others, because Forrest Gump, himself never underestimate others easily. If you want to read the review of the book, please click this link.

After went through so much feels, I moved on to the next "world" I visited which was Wafdaini's blog. She wrote the review of a book that I wanted to read for so long, it's "The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up. It's from Marie Kondo, the queen of tidying up as I should say. She teach us on how to tidying up precisely for a long term benefit. She had some method that not only we can apply to tidying up, but in improving our life. The method was so relatable and reasonable.

Please click this link, to know more about her method.

The next "world" I've visit is, Vera Siregar's blog. Nowadays, depression is one of many problems that a lot of people have to deal with. Not gonna lie, some people have the courage self-diagnose themselves without having meet someone professional. This time, Vera wrote several signs and symptoms if we going through some sort of depression. She wrote it completely, that you can get plenty of information. However, we should not self-diagnose ourselves but she review a book written by someone professional so maybe you should give her review a try. If you interested, you can click this link.

 

The last but not least "world" that I have visited is Vira Oktaviyani's. She wrote about Obsessive-Compulsive Disorders. I once watch Korean Drama focusing on this disease, it's  called It's Okay It's Love. From what I knew about this disease is just the patient constantly hallucinating over something, because what they gone through in the past. However, I never knew that there are several kind of OCD before I read the review from her blog. I think what she brought is interesting matters because some people still don't understand about this disease, like me. If you do interested, you should check this link.

Several blog I've visit, gave so many thoughtful ideas and massage. They wrote it so pleasantly without being exaggerate. It's such a waste if you don't give those blog a read. I think you would experience the same thing as I did.

I called my "travel" as success because I got a lot of new information from there.